Aging gracefully is an amazing thing. When we are young we tend to want to speed things up… when will I get to drive, date, drink alcohol??? When we hit our 30’s we tend to have a full plate, not enough time, we’re in the rat race if you will. In our 40’s we start to see how impermanent life truly is and how mortal we really are, we find gratitude and appreciation wherever we can. After that, what happens? I don’t know since I’m only at the ripe old age of 43. My older friends and older patients tell me I’m in for quite a ride though, opportunities to become more grounded in who I am and more time for reflection. Buddhist writer, Jack Kornfield says there is only one question we tend to ask ourselves at the ‘end’… “Did I love well”.
Here’s some more food for thought.
Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed
For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality.
I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
After reading that, how would you do things different? There’s still time, there’s enough time until there’s no time.
Christina Martin is the founder of Tao to Wellness. She is an Acupuncturist, Chinese Herbalist and Teacher and has been in practice for over fifteen years. She holds a Master’s Degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and is California state licensed and a nationally certified Diplomat of Acupuncture. She is also a Fellow of the American Board of Reproductive Oriental Medicine.